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on August 3, 2012



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 Ladies are at a disadvantage from the start. There are just fewer men than women and that alone puts women at a disadvantage. It’s no wonder that so many women feel they have to try so hard to attract a potential mate. Young women are also very busy these days. Many attend school and also work full time. It’s easy to see how a nice lady can get all wound up over a first date and forget her manners or make other common mistakes.

Let’s face it , men can be choosy about the women the want to date. They can be and they are. It’s not enough to just look good and wear fashionable clothing. Women need to be on their toes and make a good first impression in order to receive a phone call from a man asking for a second date. There are so many things I could advise women to do such as being sweet and attentive. Those pieces of advise are simple and straight and can come in handy. I think it’s more important to take a look at what not to do on a first date. Here’s a few of the things that I think are most important.

Never flirt with other men while on a date :
Men are much more jealous then they will ever let on to you. They’re taught to be confident and assertive from an early age and it’s a lesson most men seem to learn well. Your date might seem perfectly fine with you catching a hug from a male friend you run into but, he will resent it whether he let’s on to you or not. When a nice man asks you out on a date, he wants your time and your attention. If your eyes are roaming and your mind is in another place, he’ll notice and he won’t be happy. You went out on this date so you must think this guy is worthy of your attention and affections. Give him both freely and completely.

Don’t talk about your Ex :
It hits the same sour note with men that flirting openly does. It really doesn’t matter what you say about someone you dated in your past. It’s a total losing situation as soon as you mention an ex. If you speak highly of them, your date will have to wonder if you still have unresolved feelings. Speaking poorly of someone you dated in the past will only make your date wonder if it’s a habit that will result in you speaking poorly of him some day. Keep your conversations current. Focus on your dates finest traits and give honest compliments. Men love attention and true affection. If you give them both , your date may call again even sooner than you hope.

Turn off your cell phone :
Few things are more irritating than phone calls interrupting during a dinner or intimate conversation. If you’re lucky enough to be asked out on a date that you want to go on, take the time to plan for it. Don’t leave loose ends open at work or at home that could cause interruptions in your evening. The best plan is to just turn your cell phone completely off. If you have a child, make sure they’re attended to and give the sitter two numbers for relatives they can call in case of emergency. If you have business calls that might come in, make sure you have plenty of room in your voice mail for messages and have an appropriate outgoing message ready. It’s hard for many people to actually put down their phones and leave them down. Making a point of doing just that might be all it takes to rank you as worthy of a second date in some mens eyes. Try it and you might find out that your date is interesting and someone you’d really love to see again.

Leave your masculine side at the curb :
You may be proud of the fine shape your body or how great you are at shooting pool. Maybe you’re an all star at basketball or the sharpest poker player in your neighborhood. Trust me ladies, a first date is not the time to show off these fine qualities. Some women think it’s cute to out man the man. Men do not find it cute. They find it irritating and offensive. Men want to be manly, especially in the early stages of a relationship. It’s natural for men to want to be strong and capable of taking care of their women. When you outshine your date at any masculine activity, it’s disaster. If you really want to leave your date with a smile and wanting more, toss that pair of aces and draw two more cards. You’ll lose the hand and win the man !

Never have less than excellent hygiene :
There’s no doubt that men are visual creatures. That doesn’t mean that all you have to do is look good to win a mans heart over. When you go on a first date, you should aim to please all of his senses. The sense of smell is second only to the sense of sight on a first date. It’s just as important to wash and wear deodorant as it is to dress nicely. Your hair should be clean and shining and your teeth should be white. Men do love for women to have their own signature scent but it’s very important not to wear too heavy of a perfume. Fresh and clean should be the two words you don’t want to forget for a first date. Nails are important also. Most men prefer nicely trimmed clean and lightly polished nails. Don’t over do it with super long fake nails. Be as invitingly fresh with your scents as well as your smiles and your date is sure to appreciate it.

Don’t make the first move :
It’s great to be accepting and warm when he gives you that first kiss. It’s just very important that he be the one to give it and you be the one to receive. Men are like animals in the sense that they really crave the challenge and the chase. When women are too easy or even pushy on a first date, it can be a total deal breaker. It touches back to not out manning the man. If you want your date to kiss you so bad that you can taste it, flirt lightly with him. Lick your lips lightly when you know he’ll notice. Sit close to your date and be sure to have a lot of eye contact. Patience is incredibly important when it comes to first moves or kisses. When your date does kiss you, it’s also important to be receptive but sweet. Don’t let a first kiss turn into a marathon. Keep it short , simple and sweet. He’s sure to want more and that, dear ladies, is the whole idea!

No life stories :
You may have waited a long time for this man to ask you out. You’re ready or more than ready to get to know him and for him to know you. It’s one of the most common and sweet mistakes a lady can make on a first date. In your zest to hurry the process of getting close, you spill your guts about every detail of your life. It’s like throwing a gallon of water on a match. It’s absolutely sure to put out the fire. No matter how interesting or wonderful your life is, to divulge too much on a first date is a huge mistake. It leaves no mystery for the man to uncover on future dates. The best thing you can do is to learn more about your date than he learns about you. He’ll feel great about the attention you give him and he’ll also feel a desire to learn more about you.

If in reading these tips you see a little of yourself and past mistakes you’ve made on dates, be kind to yourself about it. Women all over the world make the same mistakes time and time again. The fun thing about going on a date with someone new is that it’s like a clean slate. Take advantage of that and make a point of not repeating past mistakes. Be sweet , sensitive and kind. Be honest and open without being over bearing. He saw something in you that made him want to see you more. Let him uncover you a little at a time and you’re sure to get a second date and possibly more. Good luck and happy dating !


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